They Became Successful - So Why Can't You?

I believe it is myself that stands in my own way.

What makes people successful is that they are willing to do what all the unsuccessful people are not willing to do. They do what it takes whether they feel like it or not. Successful people have gotten over whether something is uncomfortable and get what needs to get done. Unsuccessful people focus on feeling good now and not doing what they should do.

Hi Gary It's belief - a bundle of them, sometimes called a "paradigm"! There's a big distinction between logic and emotion - so logically it's easy to see and believe that sick people can climb Everest etc., but if you fundamentally believe you're not a success, or something's difficult, you'll stumble and prove yourself right every time! There's another distinction worth making here too. It's the difference between hope and expectation. If you hope to succeed but expect to fail ... you'll fail! The solution lies in shifting your focus inwardly to all the times you have succeeded - no matter how small! You succeeded at baking a cake, learning to swim or drive ... you already have the success formula within you! Then FEEL it for the thing you're working on now. Hey ... this is a big topic - and one of my favourites, so thanks for opening it up! I have recently published a free ebook about how to shift that very core image - I don't know whether it's okay to do this, but as it's free hopefully you won't object ... so I'm pasting in the link to it here... http://www.mediamax.com/tremdon/Hosted/Key_to_success.exe Thanks, Gary as always. All good things Trevor. (www.wizardofwisdom.com)

Hi Gary it is our low self esteem in ourself. I have a bad case of it. When i truly belive in myself(my ablility) i find that i can do what i set out to do, but the past few years i seem to be locked in a cement room with no doors.(www.jwbenterprise.com)

It has to do with finding "your purpose" in life.

they acted and took action

It comes down to ATTITUDE and ones 'approach towards realizing outcomes' that makes all the difference!!!

The Self esteem to believe you deserve it and the confidence to accept it when the opportunity arises.

One word..............Passion!!!! You need to be passionate about what you are doing, this feeling will enable you to take anything in your stride and overcome any obstacles. Think about it. When you last felt passionate regarding a product or project, it is inevitable that you were successful in your endeavors. Compare to the time you just couldn't gel, or get excited with a project, time dragged, you became bored, and the results weren't the best you've seen. Confidence is a great tool too, so I'll expect your call for my coaching Gary!!!!! (Only joking!!!)

Belief! Our beliefs can stand in the way of virtually everything we do; or compel us to the kind of action that keeps us moving forward. We do indeed get in our way by any self-limiting beliefs. And... What we believe, or focus on ultimately becomes our reality.

THEY TOOK ACTION.

1-Not taking the necessary actions 2-Lack of Knowledge 3-Not Knowing where to start 4-FEAR

Those that succeed believe that they can and they take immediate action. Their focus is on doing what they truly want to do... and they do it.

Believe you can (and dream/see it) ... and you will. Believe you can't ... and you won't.

I've read the books, listened to the tapes, did the deeds and have come up short. Have I given up? Don't bet your life on it. There is a path to happiness for us all - for some it leads to riches and triumph, to others it is the joy and challenge of walking the path. Nobody, dead or alive, can beat death. So the challenge is to do your best for as long as you breathe. Life may seem unfair and uneven...and it is. That is, however, no excuse for giving up on your dreams and goals. I'll bet the biggest complainers are the ones who have never written down an exacting and goal-driven plan.

i've read ALL the e-books out there, listened to motivational cds you name it i've done it. But my problem is not the 'get up and do it attitude' that's absolutely fine, it's the personal circumstances that seem to affect my move into that 'league above' so to speak. Unfortunately i have studied what i want to do for 2 years now and am currently learning copywriting (which is great) but my life seems to be full of all sorts of obstacles that limit my time (like all i guess) but for me it is the lack of capital that is hurting me at the moment and i find it really frustrating - i'm quiet heavily in debt and with that i tend to hold back as like all of us we need to priortise our financies and that ain't easy! I have a failed product and thats ok but i hope not to do the same again. So with all that going on it's tough - but i know i'll come out on top if i keep on going. and i will i beleive that there is a better way for all of us IF we're willing to look for it!

Belief in yourself.

In another persons's comments they said that yes, it seems unfair that we all die anyway, that is saying the oppisite of The Law of Attraction, we are all made up of energy, when this body die, we, our soul, spirit, however you deal with it, becomes energy, therefore, we really never die.

It is their thinking. It most likely is their subconcious thinking, that stops them.

I believe it is the fear of success. I think we are afraid to leave our comfort zone and become the person that can achieve our desires.

I think it's personal responsibility... the decision that you alone are responsible for the conditions of your life.

They just do it!

The answer is unshakable self belief and desire.

In life/work if you think you can you're right. If you think you cant you're right.

What you behold is what you become.

It is my believe that we are raised to focus on all that could possible harm or hurt us, - all that could go wrong. Thus, we tend to focus on all the "scary" things that could happend, instead of all we actually are capable of. What we focus on - expans! Soon we experience another dissapointing attempt, which will support our own limiting beliefs.

I guess most that have commented are getting to it but not really saying it. Traditionally, both Passion and Vision are what it takes to succeed. Vision gives you the path to follow and goals to set to achieve the success you are pursuing while the Passion is what keeps you moving forward on that path to success. Most successful people fail several times before becoming truely successful.Additionally, those that are succesful fail forward and learn from each failure in order to avoid going the same way twice.

They had a coach/mentor who was successful and did exactly what the coach/mentor did to become successful. They followed a system for success.

I believe it's procrastionation, and the way you think and feel about yourself.

Gary, I believe it's about raising your game at all levels. Becoming a doer, just doing it. It's easy to spend more time thinking about whether it is worth doing something, than the time it would gave taken just to do it! David Rayner http://motivation-tips.co.uk/

Momentum.

They Think, Plan, Act, and Believe with undeniable Gratitude and Service to Others.

The successful people are willing to do what others are unwilling to do!!!!!!!!!!!!

Passion, Drive, and Determination. Whatever you want to do - if you have a passion in your heart and soul to do it - then nothing can stop you. You'll find the time, find the money, find the path, find the teacher, find the way. Whatever you are truly, deeply passionate about being, doing or having in your life is what you will become - that burning desire and drive and deternimation (almost at an existential level) will compell you to move mountains to achieve, experienc and have whatever it is you truly deeply want. Often times we are not *connected* to this energy, to this passion, to this inner drive that lays dormant in all of us. Without connection to this - nothing is achieved, or if it is, it is not kept. If you have not yet achieved this locking in on your dream, loading up your mind, skills, and energy with whatever necessary to achieve the dream, and then have the coaching, mentoring, support and belief to launch into your goal, then you probably aren't living of your dream.....YET! (YET = You Expect To!) Everyone has Fire in the Belly; everyone has a Big Dream - most people are disconnected to from it, unconsciously incompetent at finding, purifying it and actively ignighting it so that it becomes the engine, the unstoppable force of nature, that propells them to all their dreams. Final note - while I believe in the Law of Attraction, the Law of Focus, and in LIfe Coaching, good Therapy, and the power of postiive thinking...there remains one elemental component that is often missed.....and it is this: we each develope an interior story, an idea of self, an architecture of the possible for ourselves that tells us who we are and what is possible - and most of us are unconscious of this inner landscape and how it constellates our life path. What changes this vision? We do! :-) Thanks Gary! You rock! Namaste - Jonathan W. Logan Portland, Oregon, USA

They were willing to take risks

They feel the success and see themselves doing it.

Hi Gary! All those that became successful despite the odds decided not to listen to those who told them they couldn't and pursued their goals and dreams.

My thoughts are to focus on our innate strengths, using and improving on them to our greatest potential; rather than focusing on our weaknesses, and improving them only minimally.

They are more in tune with the fact that we are spiritual beings have a human experience, and decide that our limitations are only our perception and need not be an obstacle. They feel no guilt in enjoying everything the world has to offer...

Persistent faith coupled with gratitude

People who reach uncommon success are crystal clear about their core desire (The DNA of Success) and take action accordingly. They aren't focused on what they think they want, rather they are focused on what that will give them (which is what they really want).

"Your life will not change because you KNOW what to do. Your life will change when you DO what you know."

Belief in self, focusing, passion, drive, fear, determination, attitude, self-esteem, knowledge, etc., all are dependent upon on one thing. Faith. Faith in what? Like the good book says, 'faith without works is dead'. Regardless of how much you have of all of the above attributes, unless you have the 'proper' faith in your purpose and one who is guiding you and the necessary kind of works, you are unlikely to achieve any of your goals. Example, there are those who say they believe in Christ and therefore they are saved. What do they believe about Christ? Like those that say they have faith in Christ. Faith about what? The real answer is they have faith sufficient to know he is who he really says he is and that he will do exactly what he says he can do and will do exactly what he says he will do. Where does the work come in? You first have to search out what he has said about himself, what he said he can and will do and then you must act and do in such a manner (obey the commandments) that you know for a surety you are saved. If you are the internet guru god who says 'this is how to become successful', then I must find out all I can from and about you and have sufficient faith to work and do all you say to do if I really want to be successful in the internet business world. If I am not willing, because of what I have heard others say about how to do this or that, to not do exactly what you say (obey your commandments, follow your directives, etc.), my works are not sufficient to gain the reward (success). In other words if I have some doubt in your ability to produce and do not follow every step (commandment), therefore I will not be successful.

Focus on the outcome of achieving the goal - envision what it is like to have achieved it and what life will be like as a result of it. Keep those thoughts actiive in your mind as you then take direct steps towards that goal, not allowing other things to take you off the path.

For me it's 2 things - Belief (not talking yourself into it - absolutely no doubt - you just decide to do it). You also need fire of passion for what you want to do. When you couple belief and passion you can't help but to take inspired action, and you will get results. and the side benefit - syncronicity happens!

Wow, all these people have really great answers, and none of them were right? What chance have I possibly got then? Hmm, that little voice comes again. Can there ever be any other little voice in my head? What kind of answer is Gary looking for here? How can I get that 1-on-1 coaching session? I have the It's Obvious Stupid newsletter but haven't had a chance to read it yet, and downloaded all the materials but not yet perused them. It's been chores and errands and sleep all week, so I'm not cheating. But even so, most seem to be focusing on how to reach success, like it's some distant, difficult goal. But I don't see many asking what success means to them? How do I make success reach ME? How do I take stock of my life, where I've been, where I am, where I might go, and just say, you know what's important, I have some food, some peace, some time to relax, and some good hobbies that I can do for work too. Why not just adjust my view of what success means? I know I can use money to make some things in life a bit easier, and I won't say no to truck fulls of it if they come my way. But why can't I just say that just by being here, just by being alive, I'm a success. I just kind of put it out of my mind for the moment. All the other answers here, I think they're great too, and all of it is very important. Visions, goals, directions, gratitude, belief, self-esteem, determination. But, I don't know why, but the thought just struck me, sounds like driving a race car, preparing a jet or a space shuttle, a bit hard-edged and complex, to prepare for a long journey to reach a destination as fast as possible. And if all those answers weren't what Gary was looking for, I figured, maybe it's not so much about the destination as the journey, and the journey isn't about moving ourselves to some far off place, but moving our far off thoughts closer to ourselves. Maybe I guess right, maybe not, but just by virtue of a different perspective, I think I had something of value to offer the conversation. Well, that's good enough for me for now, I feel alright. Best wishes to everyone out there seeking the unknown.

A burning desire to succeed. Have a plan of Acton, with the steps laid out to get there. The will, self motivation and discipline to to follow through. Be adaptable and adjust as needed, but do it no matter what, because obsticals will be many. No excuses accepted and failure is not an option. Make it fun, love what you do that in itself is a reward, and enjoy life and your journey to a better one.

Just making the decision , You want to do it , Plain and simple .

Its the way they think.... they think differently than the "average" person.

Our brain is designed to make sense of our experiences in the world and, if it's to do that, there can only be one 'reality'. This is sometimes known as sanity. Our brain achieves that by matching our outer reality to our inner reality through the process of determining what we should notice and what we should ignore according to what it perceives as meaningful. Our experiences consequently tend to confirm what we already believe. What we believe to be so becomes what we expect to be so and we act accordingly. When we make success our mental reality, it must naturally become our physical reality. Whatever actual behaviours and actions in the world at large that might require. Tiger Woods was the greatest golfer in the world in his mind long before it was true in 'real reality'. And if he hadn't have been, he wouldn't be. Getting our lives as we want them in our heads first is where the work needs to be done and it can be very hard work (tell me about it), but, once the success we desire exists as a believable reality inside our head, we have only to act it out. Something like that?

They set goals. they have a road map.

They succeed simply because they DO NOT fear failure!

Perfect Practice Makes Perfect

They have the determination and they have followed the law of success rules.

There's a big difference between what we think we want and what we truly want. You have to feel it in your gut and see it in your mind. Those people saw themselves as successes before they were ever considered successes by the rest of us. There was no doubt in their minds. That's my opinion and I won't entertain any doubts either.

you need to feel worthy in yourself

Take consistant action.

it's their mindset..

1.) information overload and disagreement cause paralysis 2.) Fear of failure and/or success 3.) Lying cheating greedy gurus who never do what they actually tell you to do or leave out critical info Goals are for weenies, they are LIMITERS. Most people who are big fans of goals set and use them poorly ( because of bad training) Visualization- HA! Another subject taught very poorly and often counterproductive because of it. Mindset is key, but easily worn down by association with negative people or daily distractions...associating with right people can help.

they believed and they did. They had a vision and forfilled it.

It's about what I call ‘enabling leadership’. This concept goes much further than motivating someone with a nice word or ‘armaround- the-shoulder’ management – it’s about setting that inspirational example to motivate other people to think and action things differently.

Winners never quit, and Quitters never win.... This is the same concept that successful individuals have and unsuccessful individuals do not possess. Successful individuals keep going like the Energizer Bunny, and not pursuing their goals is not an option, no matter what.........................

Imagination!

They have a deep burning desire. They have visualized what they would like to achieve and sought the means to attain those -goals, desires etc. They are persistent in their pursuit of these ideals and relentlessly soldier on accepting all obstacles as part of the journey and helping them to focus more closely on achievment of their deepest wishes. They are committed, unwavering and they utilize all support that is at their disposal

Be creative, not competitive and never give up - just keep on trying until you succeed.

They don't give up. No matter the obstacles or failures encountered they keep trying until they accomplish what they started out to do. Winston Churchill once gave a commencement speech of 6 words. He approached the podium, surveyed the audience and stated "Never Give Up." Pausing to look over the graduates, families, and friends he then repeated "Never Give Up." He departed the stage believing he had informed the graduates of everything they needed to know to be successful.

Hi, Gary. Great discussion you have going on here! The keys for me are: decision (I decide who I am and what I do no matter what anyone else thinks), commitment (to my goal and myself), and action.

Hi Gary, The secret to success is to take immediate action. Nothing happens until something or someone moves. So take immediate and constant action whilst adjusting your course as you go along.

They visualised their success every day. They used their imagination to create a vivid picture of the sucess they wanted to enjoy and then combined this with positive emotions to give it true power to attract the future they wanted.

A strong sense of self. Not afraid of failure. Embracing small failures as part of the learning curve on the path to ultimate success. Strong self-confidence, unrelenting self-determination (will) and persistance to make it happen. A mindset that you don't have to get it perfect... you just have to get it going. An undying competitiveness to overcome every obstacle along the way no matter what... against all odds.

The people who succeed have an overwhelming, compelling, fire-in-the-belly desire to succeed. Why? Because to them their personal success means it will benefit others. It goes beyond themselves - one person. It includes not just them, their family and friends but the whole world. Personal success means success for all humanity. Think about it, about all the great achievers of the world; Edison, Ford, Ghandi, Nelson Mandela, The Wright Brothers etc. They all had a great vision for success yet we, the people living today, us, we are benefitting from their success. So your desire for success MUST include others. Think BIG. Think Global. Include everyone. With a vision that compelling you will succeed.

An attitude of gratitude.

Once a person knows what he wants in life or what makes him truly happy in life, whether achievement of personal milestones in career or improving relationships. and has a fair idea about how to go about achieving it, the next most important thing he should do is he should be totally committed to act fearlessly on the action plan to achieve his goals. He should have the self-belief that if he is sincere and committed, he will achieve the goal. He should not be discouraged with initial setbacks and be patient and pursue on his plan with full faith and a optimistic attitude, sooner or later he will succeed.

I believe that PASSION is what can keep of from achieving our goals or achieving our goals. Without the passion to do something that we truly want we will not succeed. John jantaya@sympatico.ca

Conditioning (what you tell yourself) and Collaboration (success does not happen in a vacuum).

I think one has to think inward. The actual solution is more obvious, simple and nearer than the far-reaching and puzzling ones!

Burning Passion. It's that simple.

Don't always settle for the Norm. Think Differently, Act Differently and See a Different Result.

have a clear mental image or vision of the outcome clarify your commitment to it identify the next action to be taken do it repeat.

Two words “comfort zone” for what ever reason we are programmed to get into this comfort zone and avoid any external deviation regardless off how successful the results may be. If you step outside of your comfort zone you will be struck by lightning on the spot. Not real lightning but an external force that exerts a mental pressure that makes you feel uncomfortable. If some one gave you a 100% guarantee that if you did this one thing you would be a millionaire, chances are you would tell yourself this must be a hoax and never try it. Why is it a hoax? It must be a hoax because I would have to come out of my comfort zone to try this one thing that might make me a millionaire. Funny how that works.

Self determination. That's all

To succeed, one must have a very strong "why" one wants the success.

Following a SIMPLE format.. or blueprint for success. Instead of trying to recreate a process... they follow the success of those who have come before them.

I think it is because people lack in motivation. Motivation keeps people going for them to become successful. People believe that they are not good enough to achieve for them to reach success. The reason why I think this is because I motivated myself to keep going with my future plan and guess what yesterday I did my very first talk in a seminar in newfoundland on turning your life around and people came to me after and told me how i changed their ways of thinking which is a similar situation which Gary Vurnum himself e-mailed everyone I know what it feels like and it really feels good.

It seems as if the keys to success are using the K.I.S.S. method (keep it stupidly simple) and action. Information overload, due to our desire to be "educated" and our want to not make mistakes, appears to be the excuse or the complicating factor. Gary, thank you for sending the information to help simplify our thoughts, goals and life.

I believe they have a "Fire in the belly"...it's a do or don't do attitude. They have a belief that they can and do not waiver from their beliefs. A complete unshakeable belief!

It's the DO or DIE attitude.

Their heart connected with their mind.

Inspiration

Anything can be in one persons head for what he or she "thinks" is obvious for success. The nuts and bolts of any success irregardless of our background, color, or education is smply feeling like one can do what he or she sets her mind to it. Most people who are successful were not trying to be successful, they discovered they wanted to make something better, be normal again, or just played with an idea but it all imerged from the feeling of "I can do this". I hope we all find that thing that niche the hides the secret that will make our life better and at the same time add some divedends to the bottm line

A man is his best friend or worst enemy, its all about desire from the inside.If one could use the inner eye to see the future of his or her activities, then there will be a focus on the end result. The focus on the result will result in passion and dedication that will make him excel

Deep inside most people really don't believe they deserve it.

No thought is needed. Just act on gut instinct. The body naturally knows.

I think to succeed and achieve ones goals, one should be focussed on his or her goals and pursue it with a single-point determination.

'simply' put how successful one is or becomes is a direct result of your dominating THOUGHTS.

Belief in Self!

Belief -- Faith is everything. Be it unto you as thou hast believed. Richard Schley

Before you can do anything to improve your life, the one thing you must do is to really get to know yourself. We all think we know who we are, but to REALLY know ourselves, we have to look back at our past and see what past events have made us into who we are now - What gave us the fears we have? Who "programmed" us into believing we can never be successful? etc... You can only make changes to things if you know what it is that needs to be changed.

Action!

To succeed, One must first decide,then know and focus on what one truly WANTS keeping the peronal vibration in harmony with that - regardless of what ANYONE else thinks or says or does