Do you really know what you want from your life?
Really?
Are you chasing a target set by your parents, spouse, or neighbors?
Are you driven by what you KNOW that you can achieve, or are you running from day-to-day, week-to-week, month-to-month - just trying to deal with what happens to you?
Or do you feel that you are in control of the outcome of some parts of your life?
We're funny, you and me.
We are our own worst enemy.
It's very unusual to meet someone whose sole measure of wealth and success is NOT how much money they make.
And...many successful people still trumpet the fact that they are millionaires...yet as they are saying this...they know inside that it doesn't mean a thing because the rest of their life is crap.
Yet...a funny thing will happen to you when you stop building your life around how much money you should get paid in return for your efforts - and instead focus on what value you intend to give for that monetary return.
One of the by-products of making such a decision is that your self-esteem will rocket.
(I know...I now value MYSELF and my contribution to the human race more highly than I ever have done.)
Once you stop trying to prove yourself to others...you'll suddenly find that people will start trying to prove themselves to YOU!
And, in the funny way that this thing called life works...once you stop chasing something...you'll inevitably find that that very thing turns up anyway!
Of course...if outwardly you are telling others that you are no longer in the chasing game, yet inside you still are - then you ain't going to kid the Universe, I can tell you!
In the same way that I KNOW that I will never go back to a 9-5 job ever again - YOU must know deep-down that, once you decide to 'Stop Worrying and Start Living' (as the great Dale Carnegie titled one of his books) - then a weight WILL be lifted off of your shoulders.
Of course...everything won't suddenly all go according to plan.
Everything won't suddenly, as-if-by-magic, change.
Like it takes years to put on weight...it may take months to lose it - not minutes.
And...if you've got the weight of many years of fire-fighting situations that you've got yourself into - then it WILL take you a while to change your thinking.
Even though I write about this stuff on a regular basis - it still took me a few years to really convince myself that I WAS good enough to achieve whatever I wanted on MY terms.
And YOU are, too!
Yet...I've seen one or two people I know begin to change, and see the results of that change - yet still end up taking the 'easy' path of going back to their old way of thinking and acting when things don't quite go according to plan for a period of time.
You ARE great, fantastic, capable, and talented!
And yes, you DO deserve to have a wonderful life (whatever people may tell you).
But...if you keep chasing it, it will take you longer to find it!
Yet...if you just concentrate on the job of just being YOU and work on what you can achieve (rather than earn) - then there will be no stopping you!
It's never too late to start...and YOU are as capable as ANYONE else on this planet.
You just have to BELIEVE in your ability to make things happen!
Posted by vurnumg
