No more 'Mr Nice Guy'.
I've decided.
I've spent almost four years online writing constructive and positive articles.
I've gone out of my way to write in a way that gently supports you...at the same time as attempting to challenge you to make more of yourself.
I get emails from subscribers just like you who benefit greatly from this approach.
But...I also get to hear from those people who believe that they need MORE support.
You see...their situation is different...they are struggling, they're facing impossible challenges, they don't have time....blah blah blah.
If YOU are one of those people, you can do two things...
1) Get OVER IT! And get used to me challenging you to get up and DO something with your life.
2) Stop reading what I write. You know what to do to unsubscribe.
Over the last few years I, personally, have...
- Spent 20 hour days for four years caring for my disabled son, Connor. Believe me, having to resuscitate your child in the back of the car in rush-hour whilst your wife is driving is not fun.
- Lost him despite it all (and, if you've ever been to your own child's funeral, you'll know how difficult that is.)
- Had to tell his older sister (who was six at the time) - that the light of her life was never coming back.
- Been fired from a job after 11 years for something that I wasn't responsible for - with no job to go to.
- Suffered from (and beat) severe depression.
- In debt more than the equivalent of 2 years' worth of hard work.
- Seen the woman I love suffer from panic attacks because of all of the stress.
So...I think that I am qualified to be the judge as to whether I became successful BECAUSE of feeling sorry for myself, or IN SPITE OF all that happened.
I'm not telling you this to feel sorry for me - or to hold up a badge of 'my life has been worse than yours'.
Far from it. (In fact, whilst in hospital I realized how lucky my family was having only one disabled child!)
I'm telling you this because I am sick of the moaners, whiners, whingers, and complainers, who just sit feeling sorry about their lives - and expect OTHER people to sort it out for them!
They don't realize that the ONLY way that they will actually make more of themselves is by taking steps to do SOMETHING about it - instead of complaining how unlucky they are.
To be honest - I go out of my way to be constructive when I write because I know that the vast majority of people are motivated by a positive challenge.
Yet - even that isn't enough.
It's time for YOU to actually do something DIFFERENT than you did yesterday, last week, last month, last year.
The ONLY way things are going to change is if YOU change!
I'll let you into a little secret where success is concerned...
If you continue to go down the same path...then you're always going to end up in the same place!
NOBODY else can get you to a different place unless YOU physically take yourself there!
Of course, I can guide you based on what works for me - but YOU alone have to take the path that works for YOU.
Sitting at the beginning crying your eyes out isn't the best way to work out how to get there - that's for certain.
I make no apologies if I've offended you - sometimes you need to get a reaction - whether good or bad - to make some people take stock of their lives.
It's time for YOU to start looking at what you CAN do instead of why you can't.
And...if you're too stubborn to bother - then I cannot help you.
Posted by vurnumg
