Why...When It Should Be What Or How!

Are you too hung on up on the "Why" instead of focusing on the "What" or "How"?

Let me explain...

I have met many people on my online 'travels' who spend all their time asking themselves "Why" questions :

- Why am I here?
- Why do I always mess up?
- Why can't I be more successful?
- Why am I so unlucky?

And...because they are asking themselves those 'unanswerable' type questions - they just get even more depressed and frustrated when they find that they don't have the answers!

Focus instead on the "What" questions...

- What can I do NOW to improve my finances?
- What could I do differently next time?
- What will I focus on doing better today?
- What can I achieve if I really put myself 100% into it?

...and the "How" questions...

- How will I stop myself from reacting the same way next time?
- How will this help achieve my goals?
- How can I make my job more interesting?
- How can I find ways to learn more about myself?

It's all a question of questions!

How and What questions automatically focus you on doing something.

Why questions automatically provide excuses for why you are't soing something!

So - next time you feel that life is treating you badly - or you are wondering "Why them and not me?" - perhaps you should start looking for the How's and the What's to give you some help to get something positive out of the situation.

Posted by vurnumg



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When I knew my lovely daughter was going to die and was unaware of what time we had left together I decided to fit in 40 years into the next year I borrowed some money amd took her to the Far East, Thailand ,Phillipines ,Hong King ,Singapore ,China etc we shared the places that thet the well off went to but also the poverty of that people of that land. At Smokey Mountain near Manila we met with and shared the friendliness of the people who had no money and theri children scavenged among the dirt for 6-8 hours a day in the hope of making enough to eat. These people were gracious friendly and kind an dit mead us both realise how very lucky we were. Within a year Georgina was coming toward the end of her life I just felt that it was of no use trying to get an answer in this life. I hope I made the most of what time we had together I spent the last 5 weeks of her life with her in hospital and when she died I layed her our myself. I fely so grateful that we had had some time to say goodbye and that she hadn't gone out one day and met with a sudden accident. Georgie was 18 and she was also my best friend.

    Posted By carol a smith at 2007-03-16 11:46:30

I have to admit that my spiritual "ego" took a shot when I read this piece because I thought it was thing to show everyone that I was on the path and making a show of the "why" questions. Now I can see "why" my progress has been so slow in terms of demonstrating desires in my life. My intention is to make my steps from the "What" and "How" basis in all areas of my life. I intend to share grand news soon about what has developed in my life. Thank you Carol for sharing your story. I intend to keep what you said as an "inspiration button" for when I start feeling doubt or pity for myself! Thank you again.

    Posted By Thomas at 2007-03-18 19:26:57

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